Recently I was working with a mother who wanted to mediate with her ex about the arrangements for their daughter. Handovers were proving difficult and Mum wanted to work out a better way forwards. Mum explained how Dad was always
Separating parents often come into mediation asking me if I can help them to put together a parenting plan. Mediation can be a good place to have discussions about how you wish to co-parent if you are separating. Here are
Introducing a new partner can be one of the most challenging circumstances faced by separated parents. Not surprisingly, this often causes conflict. For the parent in a new relationship, they often see their new partner as a permanent part
In Part 1 of telling your children about divorce, I explained when to tell your children and why it is so important. Here are my top tips on how to tell them: Keep the conversation short, simple and direct. It’s
Telling your children about your divorce is one of the hardest, and one of the most important conversations you will ever have with them. It’s made harder because often we are still processing our own emotions around the split and
Bad-mouthing the other parent in front of their children can lead to anxiety, low self-esteem and negative self-talk in the children. Why you shouldn’t bad-mouth your ex Children are made up of genes from both their Mum and Dad so
So, you’ve done a good job of ‘managing your chimp’ and you are arriving at mediation feeling calm and rational. For mediation to work, our ‘human’ needs to talk to our ex’s ‘human’ and so it is important that you
How might your story be impacting the way you talk and communicate with your ex? What might an alternative story be?