No-one knows how to get divorced until they start the process. This blog post explains how it all works so you know what to expect. I often find when couples come to me in mediation that they are confused
THE DIVORCE PROCESS
PREPARING FOR MEDIATION
When going through a separation or divorce, it can be hard to think logically and make important decisions as we are often so caught up in our emotions. All of us are full of emotions and deeply held values and
PREPARING FOR MEDIATION
Recently I was working with a mother who wanted to mediate with her ex about the arrangements for their daughter. Handovers were proving difficult and Mum wanted to work out a better way forwards. Mum explained how Dad was always
FINANCIAL PLANNERS AND DIVORCE
For clients getting divorced, financial planners can be invaluable. But of course if you’ve never used one before, it can be hard to differentiate between them and the other kinds of financial advisor, and perhaps hard to work out how
CREATING A PARENTING PLAN
Separating parents often come into mediation asking me if I can help them to put together a parenting plan. Mediation can be a good place to have discussions about how you wish to co-parent if you are separating. Here are
Keep it about the kids: Introducing a new partner
Introducing a new partner can be one of the most challenging circumstances faced by separated parents. Not surprisingly, this often causes conflict. For the parent in a new relationship, they often see their new partner as a permanent part
Keep it about the kids: Telling your children about divorce 2
In Part 1 of telling your children about divorce, I explained when to tell your children and why it is so important. Here are my top tips on how to tell them: Keep the conversation short, simple and direct. It’s
Keep it about the kids: Telling your children about divorce 1
Telling your children about your divorce is one of the hardest, and one of the most important conversations you will ever have with them. It’s made harder because often we are still processing our own emotions around the split and
It’s all about the finances: Shared ownership housing explained
Shared Ownership housing allows you to buy part of a home and to rent the rest. It means that if you can’t afford to buy a house, either because you do not have enough for the deposit or you cannot
Keep it about the kids: Bad-mouthing
Bad-mouthing the other parent in front of their children can lead to anxiety, low self-esteem and negative self-talk in the children. Why you shouldn’t bad-mouth your ex Children are made up of genes from both their Mum and Dad so