THE SENSE OF AN ENDING

How often do we tell our own life story?

I recently went to the cinema to watch The Sense of an Ending, the new film adapted from Julian Barne’s Booker winning novel. The movie explores the idea that we are wired to censor, adapt and enhance the way we present our life stories.

Just a glance at the picture perfect images presented on many people’s Instagram accounts and social media confirms that we have become masters at misrepresenting ourselves and communicating a better, more flawless version of ourselves.

This got me thinking: how might your story be impacting the way you talk and communicate with your ex? What might an alternative story be?

As Julian Barnes puts it so eloquently in his book The Sense of an Ending: “How often do we tell our own life story? How often do we adjust, embellish, make sly cuts? And the longer life goes on, the fewer are those around to challenge our account, to remind us that our life is not our life, merely the story we have told about our life. Told to others, but—mainly—to ourselves.”

Here’s a fascinating article I enjoyed reading exploring these themes:

https://www.city.ac.uk/news/2017/april/sense-of-an-ending-false-memories

Picture credit: Origin Pictures, BBC Films, FilmNation Entertainment

 

HOW OFTEN DO WE TELL OUR OWN LIFE STORY?